I know that Kenz and I have had a couple conversations on this topic, but I thought I'd open it up, because I'm curious what other people think about it. Maybe it's really not something you care about or think about, but I've thought about the subject a fair amount.
So, I think over the years I've wished that I had closer relationships with some of my siblings. It just seems that there are some families where all the kids are like best friends.
The thing is that our parents raised us to be a united, happy family, but they also raised us to be really independent, and to kind of go out and start our own families.
It's interesting that maybe Spencer has kind of craved the family togetherness that our family has not had. I think he also just really didn't want to live in the D.C. area. I think he feels to a certain extent that he fits in better with a more relaxed, and easy-going atmosphere. So, I am 100% sure that he'll live in St. George for the rest of his life, since Trina's family is all there.
I really love the idea of having cousins close and having them grow up running around together. It is fun to go to see Spencer and to kind of feel that I'm an aunt to Tally and Cort, et al. in addition to Sam, Lesil, Kib, et al.
I would love to live near my siblings as I'm raising kids. I can see Aaron and Steph in the D.C. area forever. Hunter could be there forever too. Who knows where Carter and Brooke will end up. I don't know if I see them living in St. Paul forever, but they do really like it.
I am really grateful that my parents raised us to be really strong-willed (maybe, too strong) and independent and I do think we are all close, but just not all best friends and calling each other all the time. Hunter and I talk a good amount now just because we are both going through the same things. And I don't know the last time I really talked to Spencer, which is incredibly sad to me, because we used to be so close. I know we are just going through a tough spot, and we'll get through this with time. I just really feel he doesn't have time, or kind of even want to be a part of my life right now.
I really am so grateful to have such wonderful people in my life. You are all great.
2 comments:
Raising independent kids is a good thing, but you need the closeness too. The decision about whether to live by family is complicated and sometimes outside of your own control. When it doesn't work out, you have to find that emotional support from friends. We would love to be closer to family, but we would have to give up so much to do that. I get a little jealous just thinking how lucky Ky and Trina are to have their kids so close to each other and have that support. Anyways, I'm not making much sense so I'll just conclude by saying- move to Austin and be my neighbor.
I was trying to think of something interesting and meaningful to say but all I could think of is how funny it is to me that you use "et al."
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